Sunday, June 21, 2015

Crazy Event - Art & Movie Mesh - Mattapan

Had our first event in Mattapan at the Mattapan Branch Boston Public Library Thursday June 18th 5:30PM to 7:30PM.  The event was a mesh up of drawing, coloring and watching a movie.  I wanted to entice potential guests with the opportunity to be involved in more than one thing.

No one from the Dorchester LGBT Group rsvp'd for this event.  Two people from both the Free Events Group and the Dorchester Events group did rsvp, but never showed up.  This is not usually the case, but the truth is, you never know what you're going to get. I'm so glad I also, finally, passed out fliers like I've wanted to start doing.  An hour after the event started two people I had met passing out fliers showed up with, who I believe to be their grandchildren.

The Dorchester LGBT Group
The Dorchester Events Group
Mattapan Roxbury Dorchester Free Events

I hadn't picked out the movie before arriving, but I brought what I could get my hands on from home as a backup - "How to Train Your Dragon", "Man of Steel" and "MegaMind"  After seeing who our audience was, I was glad I did.

This was another big learning experience for me.  When I passed out the fliers to the older gentlemen I had met, I was honestly wondering if they would fit into the younger crowd that usually attends. Would the group accept them? Would they accept the group?  Why are these guys hanging out on the street?  LOL.  However, that stuff doesn't matter.  The groups I organize are for everyone and they were a pleasure to have there.  In addition they each brought someone with them who not only watched the movie, but also used the markers I supplied to color.  They were an hour late, but they did show up.  I'm thinking to myself, maybe I need to be looking for the older good natured people hanging out on the street.  They seem to have the time.

This was a wonderful location.  It's a neighborhood with bad stigma, but the library was more than I hoped for. The librarian mentioned it was about 6 years old and it really looked like it was just built yesterday. Nice size parking area. There are two meeting spaces including the conference that seats 16 and the Alice W. Yancey community room that seats 128. We were in the conference room and unfortunately we couldn't eat there.  However, it was already equipped with a DVD player hooked up to a great size flat screen TV mounted to the wall.  Nice large clean conference room tables with comfortable swivel chairs. It was quiet and private.

I do hope for the larger room next time so we can eat.  I also hope to host a larger event in that room, if we can get the RSVPs up. I think the big issue is, I need help.  I can't host every event on my own, plus advertise for all 3 main groups. I'll figure it out.  I'll get better.

Saturday, June 13, 2015

Singing Circle Event - Reaching Out to a Diverse Community

We didn't get a lot of people for this event, but I am still considering it a success. Once again I didn't brake the bank spending too much money on food.  It was just about 13$ for popcorn, water, paper cups, because I like to recycle, and juice.  It also took less time in the store, because I knew exactly what I was looking for. 

Two arrived, but only one other sang.  Bridge Over Troubled Water and Price Tag were two of the songs I chose to sing. Some of the other songs we also sang were, Simple Gift, Lean On Me, Now I Walk in Beauty and America the Beautiful.  While I do fine singing at home alone, at least in my imagination, I was presented with some challenges singing with someone else. I can't just stop and take a long breath anymore or sing my own made-up version of the song. We had to be for the most part in sync.

Like last time I believe I fell short with my marketing for this event.  I should have hung more fliers in the neighborhood.  I know I will improve. Someone also gave me a suggestion for adding more diversity to the group after I expressed an interest in being able to reach out to those whose first language may not be English.  They said, try reaching out to the immigration association.  I don't know what that is and why would I, but I will take the advice. 

There is a great mix of people in the Dorchester community including but not limited to Hispanic, Asian, English, Italian, Haitian, Black, African American, Italian and Irish.  I want to reach out to everyone.

Thursday, May 14, 2015

Dorchester LGBT Group Cartoon Ad

I would love to meet someone just for me, someone to love.

However, there is something I want more, something I want first. I would like to find an easier way for everyone to connect with the LGBT community. While I am somewhat connected organizing the Dorchester LGBT Group, it's easy to understand why a lot of people aren't. While there are several groups out there on alone, not every event fits every schedule. It also takes a significant amount of time to get to know people. Friendships aren't built overnight.

Please comment if you have any suggestions for helping people connect to the LGBT community.

Also comment if you have questions you think I may be able to answer or things I you would like to see available to us in the future. 

Wednesday, May 13, 2015

Boston LGBT Event Ad

Interested in learning about and sharing Boston LGBT events with other members of the community.

You've found the right group.

Conveniently organized, right on

You'll be able to view and share event information with other members of the Lesbian Gay Bisexual and Transgender community.

Friday, May 8, 2015

The Dorchester LGBT Group Ad

Interested in meeting other members of the LGBT community in Dorchester. Please join us.

---- ----------------- We are a group very open to creative suggestions and we're constantly looking for different locations to meet especially those that are in the Dorchester area. If you are apart of the lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender community, this group might be just what you're looking for.

You don't have to be from Dorchester to join but most of our events will be held there.

If you decide to start a group closer to home, we will be happy to support you.

I would personally like to see plenty of opportunities for people to get out and meet other LGBT members. While there are quite a few groups focused on Downtown Boston, I think it's important that people don't have to be inconvenienced just to meet someone for a few hours. It really takes time to build valuable connections, I simple want to take the commute out of the equation.

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Wednesday, May 6, 2015

Display Your Art - Mattapan Dorchester Roxbury Free Events Ad

Updated December 27th 2015:  This group is no longer active.  However please consider joining the Dorchester Event Group.  We would be happy to have you display your art at any of our public events where room allows. 

Looking for artist(s) to display their art at our events.

I organize the Mattapan Roxbury Dorchester Free Events Group and others.
Follow the link to join:

 We do not absolutely need art displayed at each event. However, this may be a great opportunity for 1 or 2 artists to display their work. Since we will not have decoration at most events, it will also help to brighten the atmosphere and to stir some conversation. Photography, painting, collage, music, etc. welcome.

1st Step: If interested, the first step is to join. You can respond to this email with questions. You can also email me through the group page after joining.

2nd Step: Send me an email and let me know you're an artists interested in displaying your work. I would like to give each artist a special title under their name so other members know their reason for joining.

3rd Step: Update your notification settings. I get way too many emails from some of these groups. It's annoying. I try to send only one or two emails a month. However, you may also get updated each time someone comments on an event. Please update your settings! I don't want you to spam me!

4th Step: Keep a look out for upcoming event opportunities. Any indoor event and maybe some outdoor events are opportunities to display your work. 

About this group:

We are often joined by both the Dorchester Events Group and Dorchester LGBT Group.

This is more than an LGBT friendly group. It's an Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender welcoming group.

We welcome everyone young, old, brown, yellow, green, blue, tall, short, rich, poor. There is a place for you here. And if anyone makes you feel unwelcome including myself, please let me know. 

Boston Free Events Ad

Join this group to find out about and share free events in all of Boston.

I organize a few groups in Boston and I'm always looking for free events for us to attend.  Free events mean all my members no matter their budget can attend.  They simple need to cover the cost of transportation if they don't already live in the neighborhood.    Finding other people hosting these free events and welcoming my group means a good time for everyone with little effort on my part.  I will of course be giving credit to the event host. 

This group may also be a great opportunity for free event hosts to collaborate with each other. Just maybe a few of us could team up on a free event.  Anyone interested in teaming up? What kind of events do you like to host?

Thursday, April 9, 2015

Dorchester Movie Night and Bartering Event

Thinking about the low number of RSVPs for this event, I didn't prepare like I should have.  I was discouraged. I was already hosting the movie night on April 2nd and I only had 2 or 3 RSVP'd between 3 different groups!  The Dorchester Events Group, The Dorchester LGBT Group and the Mattapan Roxbury Dorchester Free Events Group.  I wasn't sure what I was doing wrong.  Was it the day, the time, the location or something else I'm not considering. 

I would say at this point I was use to a 50% turn out or less at events.  I predicted that no one would show up.  I expected to be sitting there for an hour watching a well known movie "The Birdcage" by myself.  I still made myself show up and I'm glad I did. 

I arrived early for once.  The event started at 5:30PM. I arrived at around 4 and announced my presence at the front desk.  I told the woman working there that I was just heading over to the stop and shop to grab some snacks before the guest arrived.  I'm so proud of myself for not going crazy spending more than necessary.  2 bags of popcorn, small paper cups, an orange drink only costing 1.25$ and 6 small bottles of water were 10.07$ after savings.
We were set up in a room on the second floor, but discovered the light coming from the large windows was 2 bright and ended up moving the event down stairs. I had no idea there was another event space on the first floor equally as beautiful. Yes! The room was dark enough to create a clear projector screen image. The projector was provided by the library.
2 ended up showing for the movie night and 1 for the bartering event.  Unfortunately I was not prepared for bartering.  Looking at the number of RSVPs earlier I assumed that one would turn to 0. I intended to bring some paints, some photography equipment  and maybe some clothing.  The guests brought some curtains and stayed for part of the movie as well.
Looking ahead, I need to make more of an effort to advertise locally.  I agree with one of the attendees when they say hanging up fliers in the neighborhood would be an effective method of getting more attendees. 

Monday, March 2, 2015

Movie Day in Dorchester on February 14th

The great thing about this February 14th event was the number of people who showed up despite the weather.  5 groups and 16 RSVPd in all, a winter storm warning set for that evening, already mounds of snow on the ground and continued slow service from the MBTA.  Zero attendees would be a reasonable expectation.

For our movie day we watch the LGBT gay documentary focused on the lives of Shane Britney Crone and Tom Bridegroom. I think everyone watching was moved by their love story.  On a side note Shane now travels around the country and shares his story.

This was our first movie event and a great success.  If you could do something different, I would spend less on food given that typically turnouts are low and most don't eat anyway. Tips for event planner.

This event we was suppose to have art displayed by two talented artists.

Featuring painting from her series: Gay Buddha


Eric Chapman

                   Eric Chapman                                                                     JAMILA
This event just happen to be on Valentines Day.  It was not the organizers intention, but couples and singles were both welcome.
Though 5 groups were invited only 3 attended including: Mix Your World Diversity Connection, Dorchester Events, The Dorchester LGBT Group

Friday, January 9, 2015

Never be denied for anything. - Urban Money Matters

This was an incredible event held at the Strand theater in Dorchester MA. Members from Urban Money Matters, The Boston Black Professionals, Professionals of Color Networking Group and Dorchester Events attended. Over 100 RSVPd with about 80 coming from the Professional of Color Networking group. 

Gay Movies

It's crazy how many gay themed movies I've watched over the last few months or so on  I never realized there was so much variety.  Every movie I watched lead me to another suggestion. Pretty soon I had completed 32 movies.  I thought maybe one of these movies could be shared at one of our events. Thought I could also inspire others to share their thoughts about movies they've seen or one of the movies mentioned in this blog post.

I don't plan on discussing all the movies below. I do however want to highlight a  few that may or may not be the best movies, but really stand out as having some unique qualities.

It's not all about sex with me, but lets start with Angels of Sex 2012Both straight and gay sex scenes, but what I remember the most about this movie is the great ending I will not reveal.

Next up Judas Kiss 2011  This is a drama that keeps you guessing and never really explains the science behind the fiction.  I kept asking myself how is this character able to meet his past self. Enjoyed it.

Now eCupid 2011.  I really don't like movies that involve bad communication or lies for that matter.  I'm always screaming in my head for the truth to be revealed and I feel really frustrated inside.  Despite my feelings, this was a great movie.

Out in the Dark 2012 I believe to be one of my favorites. It has drama, danger and romance.  It's a believable story. All that's missing is a happy ending.  Oh well.

The Birdcage 1996 was the only adult comedy free from sex scenes. G.B.F 2013 was the only teen comedy that wasn't focused around sex. Both funny, but The Birdcage wins best comedy in my book.

Below are all the movies I've watched. In bold are ones I've mentioned and others that caught my attention.


The Birdcage 1996 - Comedy Starring Robin Williams, Gene Hackman, Nathan Lane, Dianne Wiest
Bedrooms and Hallways 1988 -

Boy Culture 2006   -  Staring Derek Magyar

Bangkok Love Story 2007 - Romantic Crime Action Drama
Save Me 2007 - Drama - Chad Allen, Judith Light, Stephen Lang

Mulligans 2008  -  Staring Dan Payne, Charlie David, Thea Gill - Romantic Drama
Were the World Mine 2008 - Staring Tanner Cohen - Romantic Musical Fantasy

Is It Just Me? 2010   - Staring Nicholas Downs, David Loren, Adam Huss  -

Eating Out 2005
Eating Out: All You Can Eat 2009
Eating Out: Drama Camp 2011
Eating Out: The Open Weekend 2011

Bear City 2011   - Staring , ,                          
eCupid 2011      -  Staring Houston Rhines, Noah SchuffmanMorgan Fairchild
Judas Kiss 2011 -  Staring Charlie David, Richard Harmon
Longhorn 2011  -  Staring

Angels of Sex 2012 - Staring Álvaro Cervantes, Àstrid Bergès-Frisbey, Llorenç González
Beyond the Walls 2012 - Staring Matila Malliarakis, Guillaume Gouix
Going Down in La-La Land 2012 - Staring  Matthew Ludwinski, Allison Lane, Michael Medico
I Do 2012 - Staring David W. Ross, Maurice Compte, Alicia Witt, Jamie-Lynn Sigler
Out in the Dark 2012 - Drama Staring ,
Pentunia 2012
The Perfect Wedding 2012 - Staring Eric Aragon, Jason T. Gaffney
Weekend 2012 - Staring Tom Cullen, Chris New

The Bridegroom 2013 - Staring Thomas Lee Bridegroom, Shane Bitney Crone - Documentary
Free Fall 2013 - Staring Hanno Koffler, Max Riemelt
G.B.F 2013 - Staring Paul Iacono, Michael J. Willett
Naked As We Came 2013 - Staring Ryan Vigilant, Benjamin Weaver, Karmine Alers, Lué McWilliams
The Happy Sad 2013 - Staring    , , , Cameron Scoggins                                                          
Pit Stop 2013 - Staring Bill Heck, Marcus DeAnda
Five Dances 2013 - Staring Ryan Steele
Getting Go: The Go Doc Project 2013 Staring Tanner Cohen, Matthew Camp

Suggest a movie in your blog comments.  Interested in watching one of these movies with other members of the Dorchester Community. Join the Dorchester LGBT Group or the Dorchester Events Groups. /